Jessica Stoops

Navigating the challenges of life can be incredibly demanding, and I wholeheartedly recognize the courage and vulnerability it takes to reach out for help. Throughout my career, I've had the privilege of sitting with truly remarkable humans who come into my office and let down their guard to share their authentic emotions and experiences. It's remarkable that in the world outside my office, these individuals often seem to present with flawless life and to "have it all". Yet, in my office, they reveal the emotions they've felt compelled to conceal in their pursuit of seeming "enough."

It has been an immense honor for me to sit with these extraordinary individuals, witnessing their personal growth and transformation as they begin to truly believe and feel that they are enough. As Ram Dass stated, "We are all just walking each other home," and it is a true privilege to be a part of someone's journey as they rediscover or discover for the first time who they truly are.

Many of the individuals who come to me are exceptionally hard working and accomplished in various aspects of their life. Often they look like they have it all together on the outside. However, despite their outward appearances, they grapple with a profound sense of being misunderstood in their emotional struggles, coping difficulties, and the heavy burden of memories that make them feel inadequate. For some, years of relentless striving have led them to a point where they can no longer "numb" or "avoid" their emotions. They desire a life that's truly worth living, to feel a profound sense of self-worth, and to create space for slowing down and experiencing a genuine sense of who they are and who they want to become.

While my primary therapeutic approach is rooted in psychodynamic therapy, I am well-versed in a diverse range of therapeutic methods, allowing me to uniquely serve those who come to see me. My commitment is to fully understand you and your complete story, not just fragments of your experience. I collaborate with my clients to help them find meaningful change and help them create a fulfilling life where they feel deeply connected, truly understood, and genuinely worthy.

As Dr. Roy Barness says, "Someone once asked me why we [therapists] do this for a living. Because to us, to do anything else would not be living. For who else is granted the sacred gift of tending to another person’s tattered and broken soul? Who else is called as witness to discover the depth and beauty of a person, when they or others can no longer see? Who else is called to listen to all that has been left unsaid, seeking voice? Who else is called to become entangled in the story so that a new story can be written? And who else discovers their own soul, when they have touched the soul of another? Why do we do this for a living? How can we not?"

I consider it an honor to stand alongside such exceptional individuals on their journey, and I hope to meet you and learn more about who you truly are.

Since 2015, I have had the privilege of helping individuals dealing with a wide range of challenges including anxiety, depression, trauma, postpartum, grief and loss, relationship issues (including infidelity), ADHD, self-worth, and more. I previously served as the Sexual Assault Crisis Counselor for a domestic violence shelter where I co-lead their first group for survivors of Intimate Partner Sexual Violence. I often help individuals gain a deeper understanding of themselves and find meaningful change and clarity in their life and relationships. My goal is to help you find authentic change and to help you better understand your true self.

I have a strong passion for ongoing learning and firmly believe that continuous training and education are essential for therapists to be the best possible therapist. I am a ADHD-Certified Clinical Services Provider, "Making Sense of Your Past Worth” facilitator, and a TBRI (Trust-Based Relational Intervention) practitioner. I have also completed various training and have completed a diverse range of training programs and have completion certificates for training including: Gottman Level 1, Dialectic Behavioral Therapy, Internal Family Systems Theory, Art Therapy, and training on grief and grieving with David Kessler.

I've not only dedicated myself to learning but also to sharing knowledge with others. I completed a three-year course with the Oklahoma Society for Psychoanalytic Studies and now serve as one of the teachers in the program's first year, teaching other therapists and psychiatrists. I provide consultation to other therapists and also provide consultation to psychiatrists while they are in their residency program. My commitment to professional growth continues as I work towards a certification in Intersubjective Self Psychology through TRISP, based in New York, NY.

I believe in giving back to the community by volunteering my time. I currently serve as the President of the American Psychological Association's Oklahoma Division 39 chapter, Oklahoma's Society for Psychoanalytic Studies (OSPS). Additionally, I am an advisory board member for The University of Central Oklahoma's Sociology Department.

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